I believe that most of us have been parenting unconsciously. We think we are doings rationally and logically, but a lot of our interactions with our children are completely based on how we feel at the moment.
In The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, van der Kolk combines his experience with his clients with recent and evolving scientific studies into a single resource for anyone working with trauma survivors. This is a must read for anyone who is eager to heal from their trauma, which could be from one event (like PTSD) or continual trauma (like Complex PTSD).
Playful Parenting is a surprisingly powerful approach to creating better relationships and cooperation.
Starting and ending on hope, this parenting book explains the why and how of showing up is the only thing a parent needs to do.