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I am a trauma-informed parent coach, working with parents around the world to develop a parenting approach that works for their own unique set of circumstances.

My approach is very down-to-earth, customized, and practical. My clients work on one small thing at time, creating subtle but deep shifts in their lives. We focus on sustainable and flexible approaches that positively impact their relationships with their children and partners.


Good question. Why indeed?

As a Sandwich Parent, Third Culture Kid, Recovering Shouldaholic, and Untigering Mom, I am passionate about preventing others from going through what I went through.

What Is the Purpose of This Site?

Sandwich Parenting is about becoming aware of the parenting playbook we inherited, doing inner work to heal past traumas, and creating our own unique parenting approach based on the available resources (time, money, energy, etc.) at the time. It is a no-blame, no-shame, one-step-at-a-time, we-start-where-we-start approach.

Recovering from Shouldaholicism is about becoming aware of how our internal chatter may no longer be serving our goals and priorities and then creating a holistic approach to living the life that we aspire to live. It is about freedom from inherited pressures to be anything that we did not intentionally decide for ourselves.

What’s the Difference Between Sandwich Generation and Sandwich Parenting?

The Sandwich Generation pertains to those taking care of the previous generation as well as the next generation. Sandwich Parenting is focused on said sandwiched parent and unpacking their childhood experience being parented so that they can be free to create an empowered parenting approach that works for them as they support their children in growth, development, and success.

This can get tricky (emotionally triggering) if dealing daily with multiple responsibilities for caregiving as well as unresolved childhood traumas. Work may also be a source of unconscious triggers for many people with complex trauma, due to impact on the development of the brain and nervous system.

What is Sandwich Parenting’s Approach?

Sandwich Parenting takes a trauma-informed parent coaching approach. The focus is on the parent and developing foundational layers so that parents feel empowered. This approach helps uncover a client’s unique combination of techniques that work for their own set of values, personalities, goals, circumstances, and experiences.

What is a Parent Coach?

A parent coach is a peer parent who believes that the client has their own unique answers and may need support seeking information or seeing different perspectives in order to be the parent that their children deserve.

A parent coach helps a client get unstuck by focusing in on the impact of their beliefs by asking thought-provoking questions and focusing on client-led solutions. The coach partners with the client to co-create a space where the client can feel hope that things can change, have faith that experiencing discomfort is part of the process towards their goals, and develop tools (based on their unique resources and lived experiences) to get through to the other side.

A parent coach is great if they spark a light for the client to see that they can go where they want to go. An experienced coach can skillfully lead a client into a mind shift, e.g. turning a trigger from an overwhelmingly negative feeling to an opportunity for curiosity, bravery, and honesty.

When we are stuck in a deep hole worried that we will never get out of that hole, a coach is right in there with you, helping you find the specific strategies and tools that will work for you.

My assumption is that you can do this, that you have the answers that work for you, and that you aren’t broken or in need of fixing. I’m here to facilitate the work that you may not have the headspace to sort out – yet, but will!

What does a typical coaching session look like?

Coaching is a very client-led activity and it’s all about what your goals are, what your resources are (time and energy are relevant), the gap between your expectations and reality, and the extra layer of your internal chatter about that gap. Most of my clients struggle with “Shouldaholicism” where all decisions, thoughts, and actions get filtered through the judgmental lens of should/should not.

My sessions usually start off with a grounding exercise to get us both into the headspace of the here and now. This is entirely optional, but the people I worked with have found that doing a grounding exercise before we start can help with focus and being more mindfully present.

Next, we set an intention for our time together. From time to time, there may be an issue or decision that a client wants to focus on for unpacking. Often after a few sessions, many clients tell me that they want to continue the unpacking and rebraiding that we are doing because they can see the progress in many aspects of their lives. There is no pressure to have a specific goal, timeline, or approach to achieve it. This relief from pressure, ironically, has led to more breakthroughs and in shorter times than clients have thought possible.

The core of the session is about what is coming up for the client, perhaps taking an incident during the week or reviewing the homework from the previous week. The conversation is client-led sprinkled with my checking in (to reflect, reframe, or help connect the dots). Everyone’s journey is unique as is the stage of our healing. There is no set outcome, but a focus on awareness, values, decision-making processes, emotional literacy, and safety. The result is that we co-create an evolving and expansive approach that is uniquely yours and based on who are you and your previous successes in life.

As we get closer to the end of the session, we loop back to do an intention check and agree on homework for the following week.

Where I Volunteer and Hang Out

Admin at: Healing from Complex PTSD Facebook Community

Co-Founder of: Social Pressure of Living in Asia and Asian Cultures Facebook Community

Host of: Sandwich Parenting on the Mighty Networks Platform

Where You Can Hear Me!

Of course on the Sandwich Parenting Podcast!

Co-Hosting in Clubhouse: Unpacking Asian Culture

Guest on Generation Immigrant Podcast: Episode 31 ā€“ Parenting Under Pressure Episode 31 ā€“ Parenting Under Pressure ā€” Generation Immigrant (

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