Respect the PROCESS

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We live in a world of instant gratification. You want to buy something you can’t afford yet? That’s okay, just buy on credit and slowly pay the money back, with interest. You are hungry, but don’t have a lot of time at lunch? No prob, that’s why it’s called fast food. You don’t like how much you weight? Well, here’s a pill for it. It’s magical. Even communication has sped up to the point of instant messaging to someone halfway around the world. So many processes have been made so efficient and instantaneous that we get pretty impatient with things that aren’t right.

I find that the one thing that frustrates most people is that need to have something fixed right away. We are so incredibly uncomfortable facing something that isn’t working, it’s like we take it as a personal failure or we have to blame someone else. But humans are not machines! We don’t change immediately, even if the change is necessary or desired. Other people don’t change that quickly either… even if we ARE right and they are wrong.

When dealing with my kids, I realized that I really had to respect the PROCESS it takes for change to happen.

I have to understand…

… the PAIN that this particular change causes them…

… so that I can understand why they have a RESISTANCE to it…

… so that we can together figure out the ONE next step to move us in the right direction…

… but I need to have CURIOSITY about their perspective…

… during the EVALUTION of how the change is going…

… without insisting on a certain SPEED (let them take it SLOW and STEADY instead if that’s what it takes)…

… in order for us to reach SUCCESS!

I have to respect the PROCESS of change!

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