People always tell you to be specific about your goals. The more specific you are, the more likely you can achieve your goals. For the most part, that’s true isn’t it?
This is a book that I wish all parents could read before they start getting uptight about their children’s education. The premise is that if you let kids be curious, they will be motivated to learn.
Joline Lim comes from both a Chinese and Indian background (Chin-dian!). Living in Singapore, which is a very competitive environment with a huge focus on academic achievement, Joline is an advocates for Gentle Parenting.
As a Chinese-American and daughter of a pastor, Iris Chen played by the rules and succeeded, but felt that those (impressive) achievements didn’t quite have meaning in her life. She is now on a journey of Untigering.
Today, I channel John Krasinski: I will do my very best no matter what my job, I will find the fun and be kind to everyone, I will do my job no matter big or small.
We must be our best selves as we help them develop their own navigation system for the world: they need a sense of right and wrong, judgment to know the difference, wisdom to make good decisions, and strength to stick to the right choices.
My Tiger Mom approach involved a lot of criticism about what they weren’t doing and should be doing. It involved strict rules and little room for enjoying each other.
“You know, I’m really proud of you. It’s not easy to NOT yell at kids – not a lot of parents can do that. And now we hardly have a day when you yell at us.”
Somehow whenever I ask them if they have homework and it’s still light out, the answer is ‘no mommy’ and yet somehow 2 minutes before bed, someone panics about homework that is due tomorrow.