About

Who Am I?

A Taiwan-born American-Canadian Chinese working mother of two in Toronto, Canada on a parenting journey, I am unlearning and reprogramming myself. Sandwich Parenting is my way of organizing what I’m learning as I heal and build a sustainable lifestyle that helps me be the mother I believe my children deserve.

I am: a third-culture kid, an ex-Tiger Mom, a recovering Shouldaholic, and blogger-podcaster about Conscious Parenting with CPTSD. I am not an expert, merely a parent who is on a journey to learn about how to be a better parent given the resources, experiences, and challenges I have. Learning from many others, this site is a reflection of how I am trying to organize the chaos, as the start of my journey was overwhelming.


FAQs

What Is The Purpose of This Site?

Blogging for my own healing journey, I discovered that most of my writing ended up about being parenting. While parenting in and of itself can contribute to anxiety and depression, for me, something else more fundamental was going on, so I embarked on a journey to seek understanding and relief.

The blogging and research became this website, Sandwich Parenting, where I become aware of what parenting playbook I inherited, am doing inner work to heal past traumas, assess my current resources, and create my own unique parenting approach to do my best for my children. I hope that these resources can be helpful for your journey.

My wonderful guy friends all ask me “Sherry, what is your business model? You have to have a business model.” and my response to that is “I don’t have one right now. I’m just finding my voice.”

My wonderful mommy friends all say to me “Sherry, you are really good at this. You are passionate about this. You should do this full time!” and my response to that is “I do. I love this. But I also have a family to financially support. I also love working with my colleagues to support our students to success.”

My wonderful pragmatic friends all advise me “You must be practical. Keep doing your day job until this hobby of yours becomes financially sustainable. Then you quit and do this full time.” and my response to that is “We’ll see.”


Who Else Is Here?

Parents from all over the world, with different backgrounds and experiences, feel the need to uncover their unconscious parenting playbook, reparent themselves, or rethink their parenting approach.

Join Sandwich Parenting readers from: American Samoa, Australia, Austria, Belgium, Brazil, Canada, China, Costa Rica, Czech Republic, France, Hong Kong, Germany, Honduras, Hungary, India, Indonesia, Ireland, Japan, Kenya, Luxembourg, Malaysia, Mexico, Morocco, the Netherlands, New Zealand, Nigeria, Norway, Pakistan, the Philippines, Poland, Portugal, Saudi Arabia, Singapore, Slovenia, South Africa, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, Taiwan, the UAE, the UK, Ukraine, the United States, and Vietnam!


Have you Written for Other Publications or Done Presentations?

Why yes! I write for other publications as well as do presentations for parents.

Slides from Zoom Presentation for Upswing Academy and GTA Mamas: “Parenting with Perfection and Anxiety

Workshop: Developing Core Competencies to Meet University Challenges 培养核心能力,应对大学挑战 (Upswing Academy)

Article: Answering the “Should I…?” Question (Healing from Complex Ptsd)

Article: The Power of One (Healing from Complex Ptsd)

Article: Healing from CPTSD First IS Good Parenting (Healing from Complex Ptsd)

Article: Special Needs Kids + Annoying Partners + CPTSD! (Healing from Complex Ptsd)

Article: Registrarial Services for Student Success (The EvoLLLution)

Article: The Business Case for English Language Programs in Continuing Education (The EvoLLLution)


Poetry about Conscious Parenting with CPTSD


What is Your Approach?

I am an ex-Tiger Mom and recovering Shouldaholic. What that means is that I took helpful techniques that can help people achieve their goals and overused them. Any strength overused is a weakness. Any weakness that that we use as a crutch becomes an addiction. My approach is to help us discover our own approach that works for our unique combination of personalities, goals, circumstances, and experiences.

I’m a big proponent of the following values:

– LOVE FIRST – PARENTAL ASPIRATIONS – FOCUS ON YOU

– UNDERSTANDING EMOTIONS – DEVELOP ROUTINES – STORYTELLING –

  • Relationships first: Nothing is more important than the relationship I have with my kids.
  • We start where we start: We accept who we are and our past; build on our current situation.
  • Control what we can control: We can only do what we can do. Same for the kids.
  • It’s a collaboration: Create a village that supports you, your kids, and your journey.
  • Yours is unique: No one formula is going to work for you; you create your own self-help playbook.
  • There is always help: There is always support available, but only you know what you are ready for and when.
  • Things that don’t matter don’t deserve our time, energy, and headspace: Save your resources for important things and people.
  • Grieve to move forward: We have to grieve. If we don’t, we will be stuck. Then move forward.
  • It’s not a one and done thing: Everything great comes from an iterative approach.
  • Authentic assessments: Objective observations rather than judgment to shame or blame.
  • Process over result: Focus on the process and environment rather than judge success from result.
  • Flip the failure story: Whenever we are down from mistakes or failures, we find the lesson and get up.

What are Your Credentials?

If you mean, other than being a parent striving to practice conscious parenting, a sufferer of CPTSD, a long time blogger, a mentor for young professionals, and an unofficial life coach for many friends and family? Fair question!

Please remember that I do not claim to be an expert of any sort. I like to help people, but firmly believe that each person’s journey is unique. Each person is ready for very different levels of information or guidance. No one can change without truly wanting to. So I hope that this website can help you determine if you are on the track you want to be on. If you feel like you want to change, I would be very happy to help you figure out how to get the help you need – there are so many free resources, books to read, amazing therapists and coaches, group programs, as well as online courses and programs!

(My first degree was in Commerce and I have a Master’s degree in Education. I am currently working through a parent coaching certificate and a trauma recovery coaching certificate.)