Sandwiched Between Two Generations
Sandwich Parenting is about being sandwiched between two generations, the one that raised us and the one we are raising. Sandwich Parents may be caught between traditional versus modern values, authoritarian versus child-centred styles of parenting, or the cultures of their homeland and that of their adopted country.
Empower yourself to be the parent your children deserve. Read more about Sandwich Parenting’s LAYERS Approach to design your unique approach.
Many of us would have never categorized ourselves as being trauma survivors. In fact, most of us have been or are high achievers. Yet severe impact to our nervous system during developmental years due to cultural, familial, systemic, or personal situations causing suffering and helplessness may result in complex trauma in later years, especially if we have highly sensitive, special needs, or strong personality children.
When emotional flashbacks are re-triggered, we can we be completely overwhelmed and unable to function ‘normally’ anymore. Unrelenting demands on us from society, work, children, and most of all, our own Shouldaholic Inner Critic, create the perfect storm for burnout and breakdowns.
Working with people who haven’t gone through it can intensely re-traumatize us, because their advice or guidance does not take into account the additional (often invisible) elements contributing to our complex trauma. This can cause us to retreat or decide that therapy doesn’t work.
If this resonates with you, you may need a trauma-trained parent coach who has walked the walk with life experience similar to yours.
Making Yours Unique
JUST STARTING YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? Listen to interviews with Sandwich Parents and Sandwich Kids who have found their unique recipes for making it work in their family in episodes of the Sandwich Parenting Podcast and read the articles for parenting stories and book reviews. Going on this journey means making your parenting approach unique to your experience, background, resources, and personalities.
DOING THE RESEARCH? Fabulous! Most of the heavy lifting is done by you. If you like to engage intellectually, start by reading some great books. Go to the Book Review section on the site and learn more about what is going on and why it’s so hard to ‘get fixed.’
WANTING TO SEE WHAT HEALING COULD LOOK LIKE? Join a global community for support and resources for your healing journey by joining the Portal. Interacting with like-minded peers who validate and relate to your experiences is an incredibly powerful part of the healing journey. Recognize that your journey will be different, but know that it’s doable.
READY TO REALLY START YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? Create your own parenting approach, taking into account your history, your culture, your lived experience, the personalities of your family, your resources, your values. Let’s heal together. One step at a time. Sign up for a 12-session package for one-on-one trauma-informed parent coaching. Complete the package with a renewed sense of hope that, yes, you can heal. It will just take some time and effort.
LOOKING FOR A BOOSTER? We know that healing is not linear, nor is it a one and done thing. Join our Portal (no cost) to interact with peers and coaches around the world. Take a course to investigate more specific topics to help your healing at certain points of your journey in the Healing from Complex PTSD platform. We need different things at different stages of our healing.
You can do this. We start where we start. Let’s heal together.
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