Trauma-Informed Goals

Great ideas are just things that have already happened… in the future. You’ve already done it. It was/will be fantastic. You know it. It’s coming.

🤔 We are now, in the present, just figuring out the ‘how’ and ‘enjoying’ the journey there. The uncertainty can either trigger us into a place of fear or motivate us to figure things out with hope and faith. What would you rather feel? Triggered fear? Or hope and faith?

🥳 What have you already accomplished in the future?

🎯 What does being there look like?

🐾 What’s the tiniest step to get closer to that future?

Break things up into directional goals, outcome goals, and one tiny step forward goals.

🥳 Directional goal: I’m healthy at 85.

🎯 Outcome Goal: I can engage with and enjoy time with my children and my grandchildren.

🐾 Tiny Step Forward Goal: I’m prepping my healthy breakfast on the weekend so I don’t need to panic in the morning rush.

😵‍💫 Potential Freak Out: I can’t keep this up.

❤️ Message: That’s okay. Let’s take it one week at a time. This week’s oatmeal and yoghurt have been tasty and easy.

🥳 Directional Goal: I’ve written and published my book “Sandwich Parenting”.

🎯 Outcome Goal: I know the steps to getting this done or who to ask for help.

🐾 Tiny Step Forward Goal: I’m collecting and organizing my content.

😵‍💫 Potential Freak Out: OMG I REALLY DO NOT KNOW WHAT I AM DOING!

❤️ Message: That’s okay, no one does the first time around. Focus on the content. Then ask for help. Lots of people out there know how to do this.

😬 Goals don’t have to SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time bound) if that causes you to freak out. If goals make you feel rebellious or trigger procrastination, don’t keep them. Evolve them until they feel good. We all have to just start somewhere. Anywhere. Any start is a good start.

👉 Think of a direction you’d like to go towards.

👉 Know that you’ve reached that place already, in the future.

👉 Chunk a ‘goal’ down until it just feels like one easy thing to do. If it’s not easy enough, chunk it down more. If you’re putting it off, chunk it down more. Keep chunking until it feels like a ✅ to do task that can get checked off.

👉 Take one step in the right direction.

👉 See how you feel.

👉 Adjust your direction or next step.

👉 See how you feel.

👉 Remember, you’ve already done this. You’re just reverse engineering it.

You can do this. Let’s heal together.

Published by Sherry Yuan Hunter

Sherry Yuan Hunter is a certified trauma recovery coach and certified parenting coach. Taiwan-born American-Canadian Chinese, married, working mother of two, Sherry identifies as a Sandwich Parent, Third Culture Kid, an untigering Mom, and Recovering Shouldaholic. Based in Toronto, Canada, Sherry has been working in student success programs at University of Toronto for 20 years, supporting students, young professionals, new managers, working moms, and new immigrants to success.

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