👉 Sometimes, we get triggered into treating people based on who we believe they are.
😫 It might be because of the words they say, the tone they use, the disrespect they show, or legitimately boundary-crossing activities.
😞 They remind our bodies of a time when that kind of behaviour brought us to helplessness and hopelessness. Our nervous system, designed to keep us safe and alive, kicks into action. It has an emotion, like anger, fear, or resentment. Legit emotion.
😡 We may preemptively fight to control the situation, flee to leave what we think is a toxic situation, or freeze – become stuck in a no win situation. Our legit emotion triggers a trauma response! Or ‘over-reaction’… as others might experience us.
😬 Having a trauma response inevitably makes the situation worse when that person isn’t really THAT person or, especially, if we have completely misinterpreted their intention. A small misunderstanding can quickly turn into toxic mess, trauma drama!
😀 The good news is that neuroplasticity of the brain means that we can evolve and grow from that… into having a healthier nervous system that doesn’t have a hair trigger trauma filter through which we see the world.
✨ You can see people for who they really are and respond accordingly.
✨ You can understand that their behaviour is NEVER about you.
✨ You can unlearn your trauma responses.
✨ You can have better relationships with the people you love.
✨ Ups and downs can feel more normal rather than life threatening.
✨ You can have headspace for more enjoyable moments in life.
✨ Gratitude can be an organic feeling rather than a mantra chanted to make you feel better.
✨ You can get unstuck, unleashed from your trauma responses to live an authentic life with authentic feelings.
🥳 You can do this. Let’s heal together.