Short Progress Report

👉 Cognitively, rationally, or logically understanding a concept is not the same as living it, embodying it, or feeling it.

🤔 Take gratitude for instance. They tell us that people who feel gratitude are happier and healthier.

🤯 Well… correlation does not equal causation. So telling me to feel gratitude in order to be happier and healthier only causes my perfectionist self to set yet another unreachable ‘should’ goal I can shame myself for not getting right.

😮 Genuine gratitude comes from authentically and somatically experiencing ‘I like this. I want this. I am happy with this. I enjoy this. I feel safe with this.’

Gratitude and therefore the corresponding benefits organically come when we

✨ heal our unprocessed wounds
✨ see what is and not what we project from our trauma
✨ notice ups as well as downs
✨ experience each moment without an extra layer of unnecessary judgment, fear, or shame
✨ sit with our feelings, uncomfortable as well as celebratory
✨ allow ourselves to truly enjoy a moment, appreciate a person or gesture, deeply understand a situation, feel a feeling or savour a thought.

I can report that:

🥳 I don’t hate my body anymore.
🥳 I don’t berate myself for ‘avoidable’ (translate: ‘stupid’) mistakes anymore
🥳 I don’t take things personally anymore
🥳 I don’t label myself anymore
🥳 I don’t spiral into the pits of catastrophizing doom and gloom forEVA!
🥳 I don’t believe all the nasty things my Inner Critic whispers about me.
🥳 I don’t worry that I will always end up burnt out and a total failure professionally and personally.

(🤣 Okay, okay, let’s add ‘…as much’ anymore, as this is all a work in progress.)

❤️ You can do this. If I can do this, anyone can.

Published by Sherry Yuan Hunter

Sherry Yuan Hunter is a certified trauma recovery coach and certified parenting coach. Taiwan-born American-Canadian Chinese, married, working mother of two, Sherry identifies as a Sandwich Parent, Third Culture Kid, an untigering Mom, and Recovering Shouldaholic. Based in Toronto, Canada, Sherry has been working in student success programs at University of Toronto for 20 years, supporting students, young professionals, new managers, working moms, and new immigrants to success.

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